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Choose a conversation with a partner or friend.
Find question collections for partners and friends, the original 36-question exercise and practical advice for taking turns. Choose a conversation that suits your relationship.
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Questions of Love: 40 questions to print
Deck · Original questions for a conversation about your shared life
36 questions to fall in love: the full list and how to use it
All 36 questions in their three sets, the original instructions from the 1997 study, where the four minutes of eye contact came from, and a one-at-a-time mode.
Questions of Love: 40 love questions for couples
40 original questions about the life you share: small acts of care, memories, disagreements, and plans. Choose a few for your next conversation.
Printables
Questions of Love: 40 questions to print
Deck · Original questions for a conversation about your shared life
Family reunion storytelling checklist
Checklist · A printable plan for collecting stories at a family gathering
Relationship check-in questions worksheet
Worksheet · A printable weekly couples check-in with questions, wins, and follow-through
Questions
40 questions to ask coworkers about work and interests
Questions about projects, feedback, work routines and optional interests. Choose topics that fit the setting and respect a brief answer or a pass.
- What is your ideal way to receive feedback?
- What kind of projects energize you the most?
- What is one thing you want new teammates to know about you?
40 speed dating questions for a short introduction
40 speed dating questions: quick either-or choices, short questions that lead to a story and a few about what each of you is looking for.
- What is your go-to fun fact about yourself?
- Coffee date or drinks date?
- What would your friends say is your best quality?
43 questions to ask your ex about boundaries and shared responsibilities
Optional questions for an ex who also wants contact, starting with children, belongings and boundaries. A conversation is not required for closure.
- What boundaries would make future conversations easier?
- How should we contact each other now: text, email or calls?
- What does healthy co-parenting or shared responsibility look like to you?
45 questions to ask your crush: interests, plans and dating
45 questions to ask your crush, from easy openers about weekends and interests to what matters to them and what they want from dating.
- What is a small thing that always makes your day better?
- What does your ideal weekend look like?
- What is something you are passionate about that most people do not know?
Best friend questions for deeper connection
Best friend questions about your friendship, how they are really doing and how they are changing, for when you know each other well and want to keep it that way.
- What is a moment when you felt most supported by me?
- What is a small habit of mine you appreciate?
- What is a memory you hope we never forget?
Blind date questions for the first hour
Blind date questions that start with the friend who set you up, move to easy everyday topics and then to who the other person is.
- How did you get set up on this date?
- What made you say yes?
- What did our friend tell you about me?
Date night questions for meaningful conversation
41 date night questions in four groups: easy openers, shared memories, what each of you needs and plans. Choose a few that fit the evening.
- What part of today are you most grateful for?
- What is a memory of us that makes you smile?
- What do you want more of in your life right now?
Engagement questions about money, children, family and home
40 engagement questions grouped by topic: money and debt, careers, where to live, children, faith, extended family and everyday life together.
- Do you want to combine our money, keep it separate or do a mix of both?
- Where do you picture us living in five years?
- Do you want children, and how sure are you?
From the blog
Wedding speech examples for every speaker
Short fictional wedding speech examples for the father of the bride, maid of honor, best man, parents and the couple, with a structure, a rough length for each and what to leave out.
How to write wedding vows from your own memories
Turn a shared memory into personal wedding vows, choose promises you can mean and rehearse the words. Includes length guidance, a worksheet and a fictional example.
Gottman love maps: the idea, with original questions to try
Understand Gottman's love-map concept and try original questions about your partner's daily world, hopes and changes. This is not the official card deck.
The five love languages: a list and what the research says
The five love languages with everyday examples, what a 2024 research review found about them, and questions to ask about care instead of taking a quiz.
30 couples journaling prompts for memories and shared plans
Choose from 30 couples journaling prompts about memories, disagreements and shared plans. Write privately first and share only what you both want to discuss.
36 questions to fall in love: the full list and how to use it
All 36 questions in their three sets, the original instructions from the 1997 study, where the four minutes of eye contact came from, and a one-at-a-time mode.
Frequently asked questions
Choose a question for the conversation you both want. Open questions invite an account; yes-or-no questions can help with a particular detail. Neither format guarantees closeness.
Accept a pass without asking for a reason. Offer a lighter topic or stop. Sharing your own answer does not oblige them to disclose anything.
We organize questions by relationship type (partners, parents, grandparents, friends) so you can find prompts appropriate for your specific connection. Some questions work across all relationships while others are designed for particular bonds.